There are certain topics you should avoid on a first date like religion, politics and your ex. But here are 7 things you probably should investigate on a first date in order to save yourself some time and heartache down the road.
#1.) Pet situation: If you’re allergic to cats, and your date has half a dozen of them, you might not be the most compatible couple in the world. That said, the pet situation doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. But it’s definitely something you’re going to want to look into.
#2.) Employment status: I’m not saying you shouldn’t date someone unless they have a job because let’s face it the unemployment rate is ridiculously high right now. What I am saying is that being unemployed can affect a person’s general outlook, and if you’re going to get involved with someone who’s out of work you should have all the info ahead of time.
#3.) Dream vacation: Again, this is not a deal breaker but it can give you some insight into your date and help you determine if you’re compatible. For example, if he wants to go backpacking in Tibet, and you want to go to the White Party in Palm Springs you might not be the most compatible couple.
#4.) Perfect Saturday night: You want to rent a romantic comedy, order Thai take-out and get to bed early. He wants to hit the corner bar, drink martini’s and puke his brains out until 4:00a.m. Do you see how this could be problematic for a new relationship?
#5.) Perfect Sunday afternoon: You want to go to grab brunch with your friends and catch a matinee. He wants to nurse his hangover with two Bloody Mary’s, a half-pound of bacon and sleeping the rest of the day. Again, you see how this could be problematic.
#6.) Romantic aspirations: You probably shouldn’t ask your date about marriage or kids because that’s just weird. But there’s nothing wrong with getting a sense of where your date sees his romantic life in the not-too-distant future. Basically, if you’re looking for a committed relationship and your date has no intention of settling down or vice versa why waste your time? On the other hand, if you’re both just looking for fun, there’s nothing wrong with knowing where you stand right off the bat.
#7.) Kissing style: Anyone who tells you it’s wrong to kiss on a first date is a grade-A moron. Why? Because you can learn all kinds of stuff about a person based on the way they kiss. For example, if your date uses too much tongue or not enough it could be a major turn-off. And wouldn’t you want to know that before you got too invested in the relationship?
(CNN)
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